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Puppy Adds To Soft Answer

Anger Communication Confrontation

Source: “Is this the perfect passive aggressive note?” Sophie Roberts, The Sun, JUNE 22, 2016

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2016-10-26

Scripture: Proverbs 15:1

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Sophie Roberts, with The Sun, reports:

THE power of the windscreen note strikes again, as an angry resident shames a careless parker in the most passive-aggressive way possible.

It turns out that using an illustration of an adorable dog could be the best method of ridding your road of parking hogs.

The printed message, which was left on the car windscreen, reads: “I am giving you this dog, his name is Spot.

“I thought you might want him, as you seem to be trying to take as many spots as possible.

“I hope this helps.”

. . . Many commenters commended the resident for their way of handling the irritating situation.

One Reddit user remarked: “That’s a cute, non-threatening note. It also gets the message across.”

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When you have a difficult point to make, and you fear that it won't be well received, it’s important to take a gentle approach. For one thing, an angry, accusatory attack is not only demeaning, it communicates that you’re taking yourself too seriously.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1). 

Study Shows Dads and Moms Speak Differently

Parenting Communication Words (Power of)

Source: “Dads 'use adult tone not baby talk’” by Judith Burns, Education reporter, posted BBC News, 5/20/15

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-06-17

Scripture: Proverbs 1:8

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Scientists at Washington State University analyzed hundreds of hours of family speech, including mothers, fathers and their pre-school children in an effort to determine the differences, if any, between the way mothers and fathers relate to their babies and toddlers. To do so, they had families wear microphones to capture their interactions throughout the course of their normal daily routines. Researchers then used voice recognition software to analyze differences in their speech patterns.

What they determined: There were distinct differences between the ways mothers and fathers spoke to their pre-school children:

Mothers used a voice that was higher and more varied in pitch than the tone they used when addressing other adults.

"Baby talk," sometimes referred to as "Motherese," has exaggerated, attention-catching cadences, which are attractive to babies and young children.

Fathers, by contrast, used intonation patterns more similar to those they used when speaking to adult friends and colleagues.

While mothers’ “baby talk” is thought to promote bonding, lead researcher Mark VanDam wanted to be clear that the study results did not imply that fathers were “failing” their children by not engaging in “baby talk.” In fact, quite the contrary, "We think that maybe fathers are doing things that are conducive to their childre's learning but in a different way," said Prof VanDam, suggesting that fathers’ speech patterns are helping their children to grow and expand the way they perceive and understand the world, as well as helping them to grapple with unfamiliar speech patterns and develop their linguistic skills.

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Though the study was touted as the first of its kind, examining fathers' verbal interactions with their children in a real-world setting, it shouldn’t take a scientific study to recognize and understand the obvious: fathers relate to their children differently than mothers. And the fact that God ordained the roles of both fathers and mothers should be testament enough to the necessity of the differing input each parent provides.

We are meant to provide complimentary roles in the lives of our children. The child who lacks the input of either gender parent faces unnecessary burden in attaining maturity.

“Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching” (Proverbs 1:8).

Fathers, Find Your Own Golden Pond

Fatherhood Communication Relationships

Source: “Father Oscar: What the Academy Awards Can Teach About Fatherhood” by Paul Asay, posted DadsMatter.org, retrieved 5/14/15

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-05-21

Scripture: Ephesians 6:4 ; James 1:19

Author: Paul Asay / Illustration Exchange
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Paul Asay, of Dads Matter, notices that father figures are often the subjects of Oscar nominated movies, “And we see that same strain in many of them. Fathers matter, these movies tell us. How dads do their jobs has a huge impact on their children—for good or ill. And very often, dads don’t do their jobs very well. And yet, the need for Dad—the desire for his love and approval—rarely goes away.” He illustrates:

The first Oscars telecast I ever watched was in 1982, when I was 12 years old. I was personally rooting for Raiders of the Lost Ark that year, but On Golden Pond the story of a father and his daughter who spend dedicated time on the waters of Golden Pond, forcing them to work through their strained, unhappy relationship was up for a bunch of awards, too, including Best Picture, Best Actor, for Henry Fonda and best Supporting Actress for Henry’s daughter, Jane.

Henry won, and Jane bounded to the stage to accept the award for her absent father.

“Oh, Dad,” she said, overwhelmed, “I’m so happy, and so proud for you.”…There was quite a backstory behind those 10 words.

Henry Fonda had been one of Hollywood’s leading men for five decades …but he’d never won an Oscar.  By 1982, meanwhile, daughter Jane had already won two. …

The two famous Fondas never had a warm relationship. Henry was not an outwardly affectionate man, Jane says, and Jane’s political activism infamous for her support of the communist regime during the Vietnam War strained their affections almost to the breaking point. In many ways, their relationship resembled what audiences saw onscreen.

Jane bought the rights to On Golden Pond as a star vehicle for her father … She mentions in the interview that Henry Fonda died just five months after receiving his Oscar. Giving it to him, she says, was “one of the happiest moments of my life.”

Paul Asay (@AsayPaul) is a contributor for Dad Matters and a senior associate editor for PluggedIn.com.

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“Dads matter,” says Asay. “Henry Fonda mattered so much to Jane that she bought a movie for him and cast herself beside him, just so she could say the things she was desperate to say. They tried to heal wounds through scripted words, finding real-world solace behind the safety of fiction.”

Dads, don’t frustrate your children. Don’t make make them hide “behind the safety of fiction,” or “scripted words.”

Be the kind of dad that readily invites honest, transparent communication with your children. After all, they may not have the luxury of fame and fortune to be able to buy the rights to a movie in order to vicariously work through their issues with you.

Find your own “Golden Pond.” Go there with your child, and intently listen … really listen … to their hearts. You won’t win an Oscar for Best Actor, but you just might win Best Father in a reality series!

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). “…Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).

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Vanilla Ice Cream and Vapor Lock

Communication Fact or Fiction? Conflict

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2014-07-04

Scripture: Proverbs 15:1

Author: Unknown
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How To Spread Gossip

Gossip Honesty Communication

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2014-06-11

Scripture: Proverbs 20:19

Author: Kent Crockett
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Of Morse Code and Easter Messages

Easter Communication Believe

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2014-03-31

Scripture: Mattew 28:6

Author: William Bennett / Illustration Exchange
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Do You Hear What I'm Saying

Witness Gospel Communication

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2014-02-28

Scripture: 1 Corinthians 9:22

Author: Kent Crockett
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A 30 Million Word Deficit Is Hard to Overcome

Parenting Discipleship Communication

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2014-02-28

Scripture: Deuteronomy 6:

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Letters for 'All Saints'

Appreciation Encouragement Communication

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2013-07-20

Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Author: Martha Hubbard, contributor, Presbyterians Today
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How Can You Speak If You Haven't Got A Brain

Words (Power of) Communication Wisdom

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2013-06-10

Scripture: James 1:9 ; Proverbs 10:19

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