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Fearless Fatherhood

Fear Fatherhood Love (Divine)

Source: National Center for Fathering, "The Power of 'I Love You" From Dad"

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Contributed By: Chris Huff | Date Posted: 2024-02-26

Scripture: Psalms 34:4 ; 1 John 4:18

Author: Chris Huff
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ILLUSTRATION

Sometimes we can fear showing even very simple, clear acts of love. Many fathers rarely tell their children that they love them. The National Center for Fathering reports, from the informal surveying of fathers that only about 3-4% of fathers tell their children that they love them on a consistent basis. It’s not that they don’t love their children, they do, and they often desperately want to tell their children that they love them. But they don’t because they’re afraid of how their children might respond.

According to the Center:

Our words—or sometimes our lack of words—can either bless or discourage our children for their entire lives. And we’ve heard all the excuses: 'They know how much I love them.' 'I don’t want my son to get a big head.' 'It just isn’t what we do in our family.' But those are just excuses. If we know how much it benefits our children, there’s really no reason we shouldn’t say it.

Fear often causes us to shrink back from doing what we know we "ought" to do, causing us to lean into excuses.

But the Center assures us:

... [T]hose three words, spoken with sincerity and backed up by behavior, can demonstrate support, encouragement, tenderness, and caring as much as anything else we do as fathers.

APPLICATION

Scripture is replete with our Heavenly Father's proclamation of love for us.

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him (1 John 3:1, NIV).

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16, NIV).

We love because he first loved us (1 John 4:19, NIV).

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord (Roman 8:37-39, ESV).

In shrinking back or retreating in fear from expressing that love to others, especially our own children, we are retreating from our obligation — and even privilege — to love others just as God has loved us!

And that’s really where genuine change can occur in our lives. Because as we begin to rest in God’s love for us, we find that all of our fears begin to fade away. It says in Psalm 34: "I sought the Lord, and he answered me and rescued me from all my fears."

In fact, "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love" (1 John 4:18, NIV).

Don't rob your child of knowing the your love for them. Follow the Lord's example to proclaim that love boldly, loudly, and often!

The Love of a Father

Fatherhood Love (Human) Love (Divine)

Source: My Father's Story

Contributed By: Tim Turner | Date Posted: 2023-08-07

Scripture: Matthew 7:11 ; John 4:14

Author: Tim Turner
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ILLUSTRATION

My father grew up in the Depression era in a leaky and cold house.  He said, in winter months, he could sometimes have snow in his bedroom. The house was not well insulated, so the wind could bring a chill. Though the conditions were difficult, he never questioned the loved of his father.

One frigid night, my father woke up and was thirsty.  He called out to his dad and asked him for some water. They did not have running water in the house, so my grandfather had to go outside in the cold to get a cup of water. My dad could hear the floor creaking as my grandfather stepped through the dark house. He heard the door open and the ice breaking as my grandfather got the water from a bucket that had frozen over.

As my grandfather brought the cup of water to my dad's bedside, my dad said he had never felt so loved as he did in that moment. His father had sacrificed his own comfort to satisfy my dad's thirst. What a great example of a father's love.

APPLICATION

Our heavenly Father has done this for us. He knows what we need and He provides for us even better than our earthly fathers can.

But the greatest lesson is this. He has loved us to the point of His own personal sacrifice.  Jesus left the comforts of heaven to come down to this dark world to satisfy our deepest thirst. He came so that we would never thirst again.

Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water. ... whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life" (John 4:11, 14, NIV).

Saving Up to Pay for Adoption

Adoption Fatherhood God the Father

Source: "Teen mows lawns to raise money so stepfather can adopt him" by Elise Solé, published Today.com, June 17, 2022, retrieved July 29, 2022

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2022-07-30

Scripture: Galatians 4:5 ; Romans 9:8

Author: Illustration Exchange
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ILLUSTRATION

Fourteen year old Tyce Pender of Cayce, S.C., has started his own lawn mowing business using a $200 loan from his mom to buy a new lawnmower, rake, and leaf blower. To date, he’s mowed nearly 20 lawns and earned over $400. 

That’s a nice stack of cash! He could now afford a new video game system, a primo new bike, or even some great new threads. But Tyce isn’t saving for games, gadgets, or new clothes. He’s saving for something far more important — his own adoption!

 

 

Tyce’s step-dad, Eric Jenkins, came into his life when he was just 2 yrs old. He’s been there every step of the way to raise him, mentor, him, encourage him, discipline him, provide for him, and protect him. He’s been everything a father could and should be to Tyce. 

The family’s goal, from the beginning, was for Eric to adopt him. Yet times are hard and finances are short. So both Tyce and Eric have had to be patient and settle for Eric's fulfilling the role of "awesome step-dad" rather than "adoptive father." But their patience may not have to hold out much longer if Tyce has his way.

He has committed himself fully to raising money and saving toward the legal fees necessary for him to officially take Jenkin’s name and to be able, finally, to call him his legal father.

 

"This is important because Eric teaches me respect, independence and what a man is supposed to be," explained Tyce. "If anything ever happens to my mom, Eric is who I'd want to live with. … Court is expensive," said Tyce. "I thought I could make enough money to pay for the adoption."

 

APPLICATION

Tyce may have to work hard to pay the legal fees required to be officially recognized as Jenkin’s son, and good on him for doing so!

But thanks be to God that adoption into His family has been paid in full by Jesus Himself!

“But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God” (Galatians 4:4-7, ESV).

“This means that it is not the children of the flesh who are the children of God, but the children of the promise are counted as offspring” (Romans 9:8, ESV).

“But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God … “ (John 1:12, ESV).

Strong Hands Soothe Fear

Fear Fatherhood Confidence

Contributed By: Ben Kurz | Date Posted: 2019-11-25

Scripture: Psalms 23:4 ; Isaiah 41:10

Author: Ben Kurz
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From "Daddy" to "Dad"

Dependence on God Fatherhood Parenting

Contributed By: STIRLING BERRY | Date Posted: 2018-08-13

Scripture: Romans 8:15 ; Galatians 4:6

Author: STIRLING BERRY
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Fatherhood Quotes (Part 2)

Fatherhood Quotes Fatherhood Parenting

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2016-11-07

Author: Various
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My Name Is Null

God the Father Parenting Fatherhood

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2016-06-08

Scripture: John 15:9 ; John 17:23

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Championship Fathering

Fatherhood Commitment Accountability

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-08-09

Scripture: Joshua 24:15

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Jenner Kids Unsure About Father's Day

Fatherhood Worship Sexuality

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-06-08

Scripture: Psalms 86:12 ; John 4:23

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Shamed Daughter Jumps to Her Death

Fatherhood Discipline (Corrective) Shame

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-06-07

Scripture: Ephesians 6:4

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