"It is common knowledge" reports Military-History.org, "that infamous Russian dictator Joseph Stalin prohibited his guards from entering his private bed chambers on pain of death."
One day, in a test of their resilience, Stalin decided to scream as if in great agony. When his loyal guards came to their master’s aid, they were duly executed for failing to follow orders.
When Stalin did actually endure a paralyzing seizure, whilst alone in his bedroom, none of his guards dared to come to his aid, on the fear of very tangible reprisals. He was later found semi-conscious by Peter Lozgachev, Deputy Commandant of Kuntsevo, on the floor of the room. He died within a week.
When we hold people at arms distance, we shouldn't be surprised when they don't draw close, even when we really need them to.
We can't expect loyalty from others short of pursuing open and honest relationship with them.
"Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude" (1 Peter 3:8).