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Mom Helps Daughter See Past Her Scars

Motherhood Bully (Bullying) Self-image

Source: “She Inspires Me: Jennifer Bankson, 50” posted GoodHousekeeping.com, retrieved 5/5/15

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Contributed By: Barnett Gushin | Date Posted: 2015-05-07

Scripture: Matthew 7:5 ; Luke 6:42

Author: Barnett Gushin
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ILLUSTRATION

Jennifer Bankson is a loving, concerned parent who has practically made a career of encouraging her young daughter, Cassandra, who suffers with an extreme case of cystic acne. 
 
Cassandra was mercilessly bullied for the large cysts and deep crater marks that scarred her face, neck, shoulders and back. She did what she could to mask it, but schoolmates would still taunt her, “throwing pennies at her to mimic the large pimples on her face, and pulling up her long, dark hair to expose the acne on her neck.” 
 
Cassandra eventually changed schools, but the bullying and taunting followed her.
 
Fortunately, the love and encouragement of her Mom, Jennifer, was always there to uphold her. “Despite how bad I felt about myself,” she said, “my mom always saw the best in me. Every day she would see past the acne scars to my real beauty." 
 
All of that encouragement ended up inspiring Cassandra to not only embrace her own inner beauty, but to reach out and help others who similarly struggled to embrace there own. With great courage and humility, Cassandra, at age 19, began filming and posting videos exposing her acne, sharing cover-up tips and tricks, discussing treatment options, and most of all encouraging others to accept themselves as she had learned from her own mom. The videos went viral, with some posting over 3 million views!
 
With Cassandra’s new found internet celebrity, mom Jennifer realized that she was dispensing lots of truth and encouragement to her young daughter, but she wasn’t practicing what she preached. Filled with self-doubt, Jennifer was still habitually putting her own self down for every little body imperfection, making self-deprecating comments about her “flabby arms” and “muffin top,” and making unsolicited excuses for any extra weight she was carrying.
 
“But seeing Cassie's confidence in exposing her biggest insecurity made me heed my own advice. … Once I stopped putting myself down mentally and verbally, it changed the dynamic of my interactions. I find that people respect me more and I feel more confident.”
 
“I'm so proud that my mom finally embraced the lesson she taught me: Love yourself."
 

APPLICATION

Moms, you have the power to embolden and encourage your kids like none other. But just like our spouses, our kids can be a window to our own souls. Allow them to reflect back those areas in our own lives where we, as well, need to stretch and grow.
 
“… take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your child’s eye” (Matthew 7:5, cf Luke 6:42).

Step Forward

Bully (Bullying) Character Confrontation

Source: "Basketball players defend Kenosha cheerleader targeted by bully" By Michele Fiore, published TMJ4 News, Mar 10, 2015

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-03-23

Scripture: Isaiah 1:17 ; Proverbs 31:8

Author: Illustration Exchange
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ILLUSTRATION

Desiree Andrews is a middle schooler at Lincoln Middle School in Kenosha, WI, where she is a member of the cheerleading squad. Desiree is a bright, bubbly young girl who loves to cheer and dance--Desiree has Down Syndrome.

At a recent game, Desiree was cheering for the boys basketball team when a heckler began jeering and bullying her. The boys on the team responded in short order. They walked off the court, confronted the heckler, and asked their coach to make sure the bullying didn't continue.

"The kids in the audience were picking on Dee, so we all stepped forward," said player Chase Vazquez.

“So when I heard they were talking about her like, it kind of like made me mad," said teammate Miles Rodriguez.

“It’s not fair when other people get treated wrong because we’re all the same. We’re all created the same. God made us the same way," said yet another player, Scooter Terrien.

APPLICATION

It sounds like that basketball coach is building more than b-ball skills into his team--he's building character.

The boys of Lincoln Middle School basketball team were not content to stand by and watch as another of God's precious children was bullied, ridiculed and maligned. It took great courage (and great restraint), but they did the right thing the right way -- they stepped forward and stood up for her.

We can all take a lesson out of this team's playbook. Don't stand back when others need our support or defense.

Step forward!

"Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow's cause" (Isaiah 1:17, ESV).

"Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute. Open your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy" (Proverbs 31:8-9, ESV)

"For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!" (Ecclesiastes 4:10, ESV).

Hateful Words Plunge 12 Yr Old Bullied Teen To Her Death

Words (Power of) Bully (Bullying) Youth

Source: "Girls, 12 and 14, charged with stalking in Polk girl's suicide" by TBO Staff Writers, published Tampa Bay Tribune, October 15, 2013

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2013-10-17

Scripture: Proverbs 18:21 ; Proverbs 15:4

Author: Illustration Exchange
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ILLUSTRATION

The Tampa Bay Tribune reports:

Two girls have been arrested in the death of a 12-year-old Lakeland girl who authorities said committed suicide after being bullied by several girls for nearly a year.

Polk Sheriff Grady Judd said the girls, ages 14 and 12, faces charges of felony aggravated stalking that resulted in the Sept. 9 suicide of Rebecca Ann Sedwick, who jumped to her death from a tower at an abandoned concrete plant.

Most of the harassment came in the form of hateful messages posted and broadcast on social media sites.

“We have to stop this,” Judd said. “As a child I was told sticks and stones can break your bones but words can never hurt me. … Today's words stick because they're printed. And words are as hurtful - and sometimes more hurtful - as sticks and stones.”

APPLICATION

The hateful words of the two charged teens literally plunged young Rebecca to her death, no less than had the offenders climbed that tower and physically pushed her off.

Words are weapons. They are no less potent than the power of a sharp sword or speeding bullet.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits" (Proverbs 18:21). "The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit" (Proverbs 15:4). "With his mouth the godless man would destroy his neighbor, but by knowledge the righteous are delivered" (Proverbs 11:9). "Hide me from the conspiracy of the wicked, from the plots of evildoers. They sharpen their tongues like swords and aim cruel words like deadly arrows" (Psalm 64:2-3).

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29).

Angry Neighbor Calls for the Death of Autistic Child

Anger Judging Bully (Bullying)

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2013-08-22

Scripture: Romans 12:3 ; Romans 12:16

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Eggs Have Feelings Too!

Bully (Bullying) Object Lessons Children's Lesson

Contributed By: Wade Kirk | Date Posted: 2013-04-27

Scripture: Colossians 3:12

Author: Unknown
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Scars Are Forever

Object Lessons Children's Lesson Bully (Bullying)

Contributed By: Mitchell Dillon | Date Posted: 2012-10-16

Scripture: Ephesians 4:32

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Go To Your Brother

Friendship Confrontation Self-absorbed

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2018-07-17

Scripture: Matthew 18:15

Author: Joseph Parker
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The Unopened Gift

Abuse Christmas Self-worth

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2018-01-04

Scripture: John 3:16

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Look What You Made Me Do

Revenge Forgiveness Anger

Contributed By: Major Dalton | Date Posted: 2017-10-29

Scripture: Proverbs 19:11 ; Romans 12:17

Author: Major Dalton
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Prayer Changes Me

Prayer Acceptance God's Will

Contributed By: Glenn Newton | Date Posted: 2017-06-03

Scripture: Matthew 26:37 ; Matthew 26:46

Author: Glenn Newton
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