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Hey, You Walk Funny!

Truth Love (Tough Love) Friendship

Source: Personal Blog

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Contributed By: Brad Shockley | Date Posted: 2016-02-24

Scripture: Proverbs 27:6

Author: Brad Shockley
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ILLUSTRATION

His name was Toby. He had long hair. He wore boots and raced motorcycles. He was the coolest kid in my school. I didn’t have long hair, or wear boots, or ride motorcycles. I wasn’t the coolest kid, not by a long shot, so we were acquaintances, not friends. But one Saturday afternoon fate brought us together for a moment, and it taught me something I’ve never forgotten.

The football field was one of the few places in the small town I grew up in you could go when bored. I was kicking rocks across the cement bleachers when Toby pulled up on his bike (not a motorcycle, but even his regular bike was amazing; it was yellow and had shocks). We started talking and goofing off like boys do, if only for a little while. Our kinds were not supposed to mix, the cool and the uncool. It went against the order of things, like a mathlete dating a cheerleader.

Toby interrupted our bonding time midway with an unexpected question. “Hey, can I tell you something?” From his tone and body language I guessed this wasn’t a random, matter-of-fact query.

“O…Okay, uh, sure,” I stuttered, not believing this was happening. He was letting his defenses down and opening up to me. My hopes kicked into high gear. I could see us walking down the hallways at school as actual bros, sitting at lunch together, flirting with girls, who might actually notice me with him at my side. And then he said it.

“You walk funny.”

Wait. What? I walk funny? “What do you mean?” I asked.

“Everybody makes fun of the way you walk. Like this,” he said and then demonstrated what I can only describe as the gate of a gorilla, shoulders hunched, arms hung low. Dear Lord, I walk like that?! No way.  But I had to admit he was right.

Toby, the hippest kid ever who had no reason to help a nerd like me, didn’t leave me there. He showed me how to walk like a normal person. I’d stroll down the bleachers. He’d critique and correct me until I got it right. I left the ball field that day with a new walk, an almost new friend (the order of things righted Monday, but I was okay with it), and a new life lesson.

APPLICATION

Sometimes we need to tell the truth, even if it hurts. The Bible expresses this in a Proverb, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy” (Proverbs 27:6, ESV). If we truly care about someone, we’ll risk hurting them if it means sparing them pain, embarrassment, or trouble. I’ve wondered all these years why my real friends never told me I was being made fun of. They had to have known.

Living this out may mean we reluctantly, rarely, and very carefully tell a wife not to wear that dress, or a child not to sing in the talent show, or even a friend that preaching is probably not his calling. But, like Toby, we don’t leave them there. We take our wife to the store, spend all day if needed, and help her find the perfect outfits which bring out her inner beauty. We give our child singing lessons for as long as it takes to help make her dream a reality. Or we help our friend find areas of ministry for which he’s gifted.

It’s been said that even the most unjust of criticisms contain a kernel of truth. If that’s true, then living out Proverbs 27:6 also means we keep ourselves open to friends’ fault-findings. I didn’t want to hear what Toby said, but I’m so glad he said it. Part of growing up and certainly part of growing in grace is listening to what others say about us, searching for that kernel of truth. Motive is the key. If someone truly loves me, they’ll be honest with me. Knowing that makes their wounds worth bearing.

"Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy" (Proverbs 27:6, ESV).

Desperate Baltimore Mom Assualts Son to Save Him Harm

Motherhood Discipline (Corrective) Love (Tough Love)

Source: “Baltimore teenager smacked by 'hero mom' says he's learned his lesson: But should we be celebrating her?” By Dylan Stableford, posted Yahoo! News, April 30, 2015

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Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-05-04

Scripture: Proverbs 22:15 ; Proverbs 15:20

Author: Illustration Exchange
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In the wake of the funeral for Freddie Gray--a young black man who, amidst charges of police brutality, died after having his neck broken while in police custody--the streets of Baltimore erupted in massive protests, often violent, which resulted in injury to both police and protesters, not to mention widespread damage from vandalism and looting.

By now you’ve no doubt seen the viral video of a concerned Baltimore mother chasing down, clawing at, grabbing and smacking her teenage son in an effort to stop him from engaging in the violence.* The video garnered not only social networking headlines, but mainstream media headlines as well, prompting the NEW YORK POST’s Wednesday (4/29/15) edition to lead with the front page headline: “Forget the National Guard. SEND IN THE MOMS.”

Response to the incident has resulted in both cheers and jeers, with some hailing her as a hero, and others indicting her as just another “stereotypical” black mom who thinks “the only way to control black kids is to beat them.”

Yet Toya Graham, a 42-year-old single mother of six, is unapologetic, saying she didn’t want her son to become “another Freddie Gray.”

"I was so angry with him that he had made a decision to do some harm to the police officers,” Graham told CNN’s Anderson Cooper. "I just lost it at that point.”

Her 16 yr old son, Michael, was no doubt mortified to be so publicly disciplined by his mother. "I was just like, 'Oh, man. What is my mother doing down here? Why would she be down here?'" he told Cooper. "But when I heard, 'Put that brick down,' I was like, 'Oh, that's my mother.'"

Yet with a little time and space to think about, he's actually come to be grateful for her intervention, later telling ABC News, “I understand how much my mother really cares about me. So I’m just going to try to do better."

Graham doesn’t see herself as a hero. “I don’t,” she said in an interview on CBS This Morning. “My intention was just to get my son and have him be safe.”

Baltimore Police Commissioner Anthony Batts applauded her, saying, "I wish I had more parents who took charge of their kids tonight.”

Even the Obama White House chimed in on her parental prowess and passion with press secretary Josh Earnest calling her intervention a "powerful expression about the role that parents can play."

*Click the link to source above to view the video clip of the altercation.

APPLICATION

Whether you live in the inner city or in a mansion on a hilltop, moms are on the front lines—sometimes literally!—when it comes to teaching their kids the hard lessons of life and protecting their safety.

No doubt we’d all wish that Graham hadn’t had to engage in a physical struggle with her son. Graham herself assured concerned reporters that this was not the usual way she interacted with or disciplined her son. But what was her choice? She found herself on a battlefield. Dodging danger herself, she took desperate measures to get her son's attention and drag him from the fray. This was a mother doing what she felt she had to do to protect her son.

Moms, are you willing to do whatever you have to do to protect your children? Perhaps if more moms were, we wouldn’t have needed the National Guard after all. “Forget the National Guard. SEND IN THE MOMS!”

“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away” (Proverbs 22:15).

“A foolish man despises his mother” (Proverbs 15:20b).

Dear Dad Send Money

Fatherhood Wisdom Love (Tough Love)

Source: Unknown

Contributed By: Larry Lewis | Date Posted: 2014-06-13

Scripture: Proverbs 4:1

Author: Unknown / Larry Lewis
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ILLUSTRATION

I recently ran across this humorous email exchange between a son and his father:

The Original Email:

Dear Dad,
$chool i$ really great. I am making lot$ of friend$ and $tudying very hard. With all my $tuff, I $imply can't think of anything I need, $o if you would like, you can ju$t $end me a card, a$ I would love to hear from you.
Love,
Your $on

The Reply:
 
Dear Son,
I kNOw that astroNOmy, ecoNOmics, and oceaNOgraphy are eNOugh to keep even an hoNOr student busy. Do NOt forget that the pursuit of kNOwledge is a NOble task, and you can never study eNOugh.
Dad
 
*An overhead slide showing the email makes a great visual lesson.

APPLICATION

Good for you, Dad! You resisted your son's NOt-so-subltle hint that throwing a little money his way would make you the greatest dad ever. 
 
What he really needs is your time, your attention, your wisdom, and your guidance. Don't be afraid to say "No"--resist the temptation to replace fathering with finances.
 
"Listen, my sons, to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. For I too was a son to my father, still tender, and cherished by my mother. Then he taught me, and he said to me, 'Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live. Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or turn away from them.'" (Proverbs 4:1-5)

Go To Your Brother

Friendship Confrontation Self-absorbed

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2018-07-17

Scripture: Matthew 18:15

Author: Joseph Parker
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Puppy Adds To Soft Answer

Anger Communication Confrontation

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2016-10-26

Scripture: Proverbs 15:1

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Knot A Problem!

Relationships Counseling Spiritual Gifts

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2016-04-28

Scripture: 1 Corinthians 12:4

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Good Fear

Fear Wisdom Guidance

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2016-02-01

Scripture: Proverbs 1:7

Author: Illustration Exchange
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I'm On Your Six!

Accountability God's Protection Faith

Contributed By: James Augustine | Date Posted: 2016-01-13

Scripture: Joshua 1:5 ; Galatians 6:1

Author: James Augustine
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Rich Kid Torches Ferrari So Dad Will Buy Him New One

Parenting Money Discipline (Corrective)

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-08-27

Scripture: Proverbs 22:6

Author: Illustration Exchange
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Championship Fathering

Fatherhood Commitment Accountability

Contributed By: Illustration Exchange | Date Posted: 2015-08-09

Scripture: Joshua 24:15

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